I understand why she fucked up and how the whole thing played out.
I knew something was off the whole time.
We have a new mutual friend….
The ex she was talking to…had been cheating on her with this other girl… who I reached out to (months later than I wish I had) and found out the truth. This one girl was playing them both and shit talking each if them to the other. And kept pulling my (now) ex into her game.
She lied to me about talking to her. But I believe her reasons why.
So. This monster of a person fucked everyone over, when it comes down to it. She needs serious psychological help and I really hope she gets it. Just far away from all of us.
So anyway this other girl in the picture that the monster lady lied to is friends with both me and my..ex. (It’s hard to not keep saying my girlfriend) and it’s good. It’s been healthy.
I’m giving the chance for her to prove to me she can treat me the way I deserve to be. And from what I understand, she really wants to.
I’m tired of being the 3rd wheel in my relationship.
Tonight at my sisters house I passed up 5 gifts for “heather and Claire” and I opened 2 for me.
My baby cousins who are now adults with bachelors degrees both had their partners there. My sisters are both married, their husbands and kids there.
I’m in a serious relationship that’s getting to be long-term (8/9 months now) but my partner is gone because she said her plans changed and she’s coming Christmas Day instead. And then says “I’ll try” to make it by 1.
Until she noticed I was upset, asked what was wrong, saw me start to cry and says “I’ll be there at 12. Ok? I promise”
(The original plan for brunch before gifts was 11. They open gifts super early at my girlfriends, so it worked perfectly that she could come over after that to open gifts from us.)
I’m not mad at her. I’m heartbroken. I’ve been there. But not as bad as she has it.
My gf is 31. I’m 30. And her mother sadisticly emotionally holds her hostage.
Her mother essentially chooses what she does and when.
I’ve never met the woman. She dosent want to meet me. I joked about sending a Christmas card to her family (her, her mom and brother) and send my totally non threatening holiday greetings, but had the thought she might rip it up, based on what I know about this person.
My gf said “NO don’t do that my mom will burn it in front of me”
WHO the fuck does this to their CHILD?!
Why can’t I spend some holiday time with my girlfriend and family at the same time? Mine loves her. Her mom knows nothing about me, dosent want to know anything and never wants to meet me. I am known as “the person”.
Maybe she just can’t speak my name.
My gf is finally getting into therapy at the beginning of the month. This will ruin our relationship if she dosent get help to be able to escape her grip.
I know because I’ve been there. You can hear it over and over from the ones you love, about the truth of the abuse, know what you deserve, know you need to stand up for yourself and get out, but only a trained professional will help make you really feel like you have the power to leave, and help you do it.
I don’t believe in hell but if I did, I’d think all sadisticly abusive parents should be there.
